Nobody is perfect. Please keep this deeply in your mind. When I was a kid, my parents and tutors used to tell me about my grades at school, my performance on sport activities and my personality. I am sure all of you as a kid have faced such moments.
As I grew older, I learned that striving for reaching a sense of perfection has been a misguided belief in my life which often leading me down the wrong path. It has made me, through the years, place value on the wrong things. It has also made me not listen to my true self for fear that I would somehow fail in another's eyes.
Nowadays, the idea of perfection has become very pervasive in our society. The way it begins, how it hurts us and perhaps, even, if it carries a certain benefit. It is true that the idea of being perfect is a must in our society causing stress and feelings of inadequacy. Many of us worry about scarcity. This thrives in a culture where everyone is hyperaware of lack. Everything from safety and love to money and resources feels restricted or lacking. We spend inordinate amounts of time calculating how much we have, want, and don’t have, and how much everyone else has, needs, and wants.
The greatest casualties of a scarcity culture are our willingness to own our vulnerabilities and our ability to engage with the world from a place of worthiness. It only takes a few seconds before people fill in the blanks with their own version: -Never good enough.-Never perfect enough.-Never thin enough.Never powerful enough.-Never successful enough.-Never smart enough.-Never certain enough.-Never safe enough.-Never extraordinary enough.
To transform scarcity we need to dare greatly; we need to cultivate worthiness, a clear sense of purpose, and we need to re-engage. We must walk into the arena, whatever it may be—a new relationship, an important meeting, our creative process, or a difficult family conversation—with courage and the willingness to engage. Rather than sitting on the sidelines, we must dare to show up and let ourselves be seen.
Accepting the things we cannot change, changing the things we can and having the wisdom to know the difference, we are more down to earth and able to face the difficulties in life. Listening to that inner critic with compassion can be painful but extremely rewarding and fruitful. It is also helpful to this personality to stretch into just trying on the other person's shoes. It takes an open mind and heart and lots of kindhearted practice and patience.
All in all, pefection is not possible. I creates more pain than joy and more confusion than calm. We are tempted to think that if we do more, we will feel less anxious, less insecure and less depressed. Striving toward understanding who we are and why we are who we are might reveal imperfection-- a humanness that is real and surprisingly interesting. It is a revolutionary act to embrace who we are, just as we are.